Dolce Far Niente

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I met some friends from out of town for a late breakfast at one of my favorite restaurants, Normandie Cafe. They use to live in Salt Lake and go to this same restaurant, so there is a kind of kindred connection with it. As we were sitting on their amazing patio, sipping hot coffee, and chatting, I had the extremely relaxed thought that life was meant to be lived in this fashion. Enjoying the company of friends and family, eating good food, and not taking life too seriously. I am more guilty than most for not living this way. I always have a project or eight that I am working on and my brain never stops working. I often wake up in the middle of the night with thoughts of something I was trying to work on earlier in the day. But here I was sitting on their cobbled patio, with the sun warming my back, thinking about how I should live a more relaxed life.

This brought back a quote from a movie I had seen recently called Eat Pray Love. In this movie, Julia Roberts is trying to figure out who she is after a series of break-ups and she ends up in Rome. She befriends a girl from Amsterdam and a local group of Roman men. The one scene in particular is Julia and her friend in a barber shop with their two Roman friends and they are talking about how Americans take life too seriously.

Luca Spaghetti “Americans. You work too hard, you get burned out. You come home and spend the whole weekend in your pajamas in front of the T.V.”
Liz “That’s not far off, actually.”
Luca Spaghetti “But you don’t know pleasure. You have to be told you’ve earned it. You see a commercial that says: ‘It’s Miller Time!’ And you say, ‘That’s right, now I’m going to buy a six pack.’ And then you drink the whole thing and wake up the next morning and you feel terrible. But an Italian doesn’t need to be told.”
Giovanni “We call it ‘dolce far niente’, the sweetness of doing nothing.”

Dolce far niente. Say it again. Dolce far niente. The sweetness of doing nothing. Sitting right off of the busy Murray Holladay Road watching the world go by as I had breakfast at 10:30, I was reminded of the sweetness of doing nothing. It was one of those quiet moments that you wish would never end. But it is those rare moments that make you appreciate them that much more.

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  1. Gretchen
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    Well said!

    • Kirk
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      Thank you Gretchen. You would love this place. It feels very European.

  2. Gretchen
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